Saturday, October 27, 2007


Something happened this week that, if you had told me three years ago I'd do this, I'd have slapped your face. Wednesday was the 3rd anniversary of Daddy's death. I remembered on Monday that it was coming this week. Friday, I remembered it had been on Wednesday. But on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday I forgot all about it.

I think that's a good sign. I choose to see it as a sign that I'm letting go of my grief. Like a lot of Daughters of Divorce, I had an ambivalent relationship with my Daddy. which does not mean I ever stopped loving him. It just means we had some issues to work through. But in the last several years we had a really close relationship.

I still miss him, but more and more often now, I can remember him and hear and tell stories about him without crying.

Go over to my SoWk blog for more thoughts about this.


g bro said...

Good going, Holly. It's tough losing parents and it takes a long time to grieve. It took years before I admitted having good times with my dad. Now he just seems like another victim of the conflicts he caused with my mother. I wish I'd known him better.

phlegmfatale said...

I'm glad you're progressing and healing from the grief a little. He'd want you to be buoyed by the warmth of his memory, and I think you are.